When I tell people that at times I have a super difficult time with my dysphoria and being out in public they often scoff at me. They tell me that I pass perfectly well and that there is absolutely no reasons whatsoever that I should not feel totally and fully comfortable at all times in all settings with anybody. Wow, that is a tall order. To pass at all times in all settings anywhere? How about naked? Okay, well then…
I was just reading someone’s opinion on a website about MtF transgender voice therapy and something struck me, how critical are you of gender “tells?” The specific thought someone posted was in saying that while they have heard many transgender women speak they are still aware that the person was born AMAB. I am not wanting specifics on where that opinion was posted as I am not wanting to trash that person, that is not the point. What I am…
Seriously? Male Privilege
December 17, 2019I literally raised my hand and put my palm out towards his face and said “I seriously cannot do this,” and I walked away while asking my wife to take over. She kindly went and found the repairman while I went and had a cigarette. I thought I was pretty clear on the whole male privilege thing. I mean I have been dressing as me for about the last fifteen to twenty years. I have experienced people. I have experienced…
Friends, Mis-Gendering, and Warm Fuzzies
September 4, 2019My friend has an amazing filter on her camera, it removed about 20 years!! I had a fascinating set of interactions with some friends recently. One of them was with three different teachers I worked with for a few years, the second one was with a college professor who I work with in helping to teach teachers, and the third was one of my employers. While they will certainly recognize themselves in this post, I will change their names. My…
On occasion I receive compliments on my hair. I really appreciate the thoughts but I also feel super guilty and almost immediately have to tell people that it isn’t actually my real hair. It is something that I need to stop doing. Who cares if people know that it is my real hair or not, right? I suppose I am the only one who really cares and ultimately it is a result of having not voluntarily given up my hair. …
Outfit – My Usual State
February 17, 2018Top – New Balance – Similarish @ Amazon (Looks cute at least!) Jeans -Levi:Denizen @ Target Shoes – New Balance (Arishi) – @ Amazon – @ Famous Footwear Hat – @ Amazon Here you see me in my more natural state. I thought it would be good to finally post up something from how I actually look in a more day to day appearance. This was inspired by two elements 1 – somebody mentioned to me that they don’t ever go out because they…
Top – White House Black Market – Similar Leggings – White House Black Market – Similar Shoes – Ralph Lauren – Similar I love this top! It is so perfect for being able to wear with pants, or shorts! Well at least it is perfect for me. For I am not a tucker. If you’re reading this blog I will assume that most of you are aware of what tucking is for a transgender person, but if not, then click…