Oh wow, oh wow, oh wow. On a level of 1 to 10, can you describe the pain you are in? 1 is no pain at all and a 10 is the worst pain you have ever felt. Where would I describe this pain? Oh, in the 9-10 range. I don’t really think I have ever felt any pain like this before. However, when I was asked this question yesterday in the hospital, I said, oh I don’t know maybe…
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Transition & The Loss of Friends
May 15, 2019One of the most challenging questions I have had to deal with is trying to determine if I have lost friends because of my transition. I am a member of a chat board called crossdressers.com and on that board people are very fond of saying that when you transition you need to be prepared to lose everyone and everything and thus they do not recommend transitioning unless it is a life and death situation. That sentiment scared me off from…
Skirt – White House Black Market – Similar @ Neiman Marcus, @ Amazon Tank – White House Black Market – Similar @ WHBM, @ Amazon Wedges – Born O Comfort – Schirra – Similar @ Famous Footwear, @ Amazon I love this skirt. Seriously, I absolutely adore it! The pleating makes it move so lusciously that it feels like wearing a cloud. Well, maybe, but I am not sure what a cloud actually feels like. How about that I say that it is super…
Regret is a very difficult thing to deal with, and there is great concern out there about what will happen if a transgender person may regret their decision to transition. I first encountered this worry when I informed my friends and family that I had switched my hormones. I was actually quite surprised at how many people said to me – wow, okay, are you sure that is what you want to do? And very often that was followed up…
One may have thought that on a morning like this I would wake with a smile on my face and a spring in my step. Today was after all going to be the day that I got my lash extensions done. However, I did not wake all happy and exited. I woke nervous and scared. In fact I woke with my neck bugging me. I used to think that meant that I slept on it wrong. These days I understand…
The photo on the left is from one year ago. The photo on the right is from today. This is to show what 7 months of facial electrolysis has done for me. I don’t have makeup on in either photo, well except for my obvious pink lipstick on the right. Why am I appearing so bare?? This is an advertisement for Dana Elise Solutions in Beverly Hills. Well, it is for sure going to come off like a commercial, however,…
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Gatekeeping, Ignorance, Transphobia
October 25, 2018Do you know what gatekeeping is? Here is an acceptable definition: the activity of controlling, and usually limiting, general access to something. How exactly does that apply to trans folk? Normally it is interpreted as – you cannot do this thing, take hormones or have surgeries, until you have met the following predefined characteristics. Those characteristics are outlined within WPATH’s(World Professional Association for Transgender Health) SOC (standards of care.) The SOC have never been an issue for me until recently.…
