Do you know what gatekeeping is? Here is an acceptable definition: the activity of controlling, and usually limiting, general access to something. How exactly does that apply to trans folk? Normally it is interpreted as – you cannot do this thing, take hormones or have surgeries, until you have met the following predefined characteristics. Those characteristics are outlined within WPATH’s(World Professional Association for Transgender Health) SOC (standards of care.) The SOC have never been an issue for me until recently.…
So I did a Little Thing
October 19, 2018One of the easiest things in this process of legally changing my name and my gender was getting this driver’s license. You may recall that I was quite nervous about the process. In the end, it was super easy and I was in and out of the DMV in about 20 minutes. Yes I did have an appointment, and I highly recommend making one if you are ever in a need to visit that lovely place. The super surprising thing…
Top – WHBM – Similar @ Amazon, @ WHBM Leggings – WHBM – Similar @ Amazon, @ WHBM Shoes – Unisa – Similar @ Amazon, @ DSW Belt – ?? – Similar @Amazon Do you know that I adore this tunic? Well I do! And today I felt like a queen. Does it show on my face? It should! Seriously, I really like this outfit. I had to go visit CVS after work to determine when my next refill of…
1 Regret, Some Could Have Done Betters, And Lots of Glad I Dids
September 13, 2018About 6 months ago. I will be the first to admit that my transition has not gone the way that I expected it to. My whole life has been spent picturing people chasing me down with torches and pitchforks. I know that would never happen, but as well I am the type that is afraid of a shark biting me when I jump in my pool. I know that it isn’t real, and I know it is not ever going…
Sitting in the front office getting my chin numbed. It is with grave misfortune that I neglected to heed the advice of those who have come before me in regards to electrolysis. That advice was to start now! And I will repeat it, if you are contemplating the possibility of one day doing this to yourself, stop thinking about it, and just go do it! Seriously! My issue? My issue is that I didn’t ever really think that I would…
1 Year Anniversary on Estrogen
July 3, 2018I really had no idea. If I would have known, I would have gone this route long ago. How different life would be is unimaginable. It’s sad, actually. I know, I shouldn’t feel bad for things that have happened, for it was only those things that brought me to the path I’m on. Who knows what would have been now, if that had not ever been then. At least it happened eventually. Oh, I’m sorry, I’m waxing on dramatically without…
It was with a weird disconnected calm that I heard my wife describe the horror I had been dreading since 2010. A student came up to her and described how all of the students were talking about that I had been discovered online. They apparently found my Facebook page which led them here to this little ol blog of mine. At one point in my life this would have been awesomely devastating for the two of us, at least mentally. …