On June 27th Jodie and I got married! Technically it is the second time we got married and it legally wont ever count for anything, but for me, it really felt like the first time we got married. I was able to be the one who got to plan the entire shin dig. I mean yes, like any good bride I asked Jodie what she wanted and I sought out her input frequently. But seriously, at the end of the…
I Used to do Things, Now I Dilate
November 21, 2022I’ve never been great at keeping up with this blog and it has never been my intention to be a daily blogger, but I used to be able to post a bit more than I have lately. I also used to work on a little side project called TransCisTer Radio. Oh and I had started to do some art, remember that? I think I shared some of my art here, but maybe not. I used to do lots of projects…
Educating my Dermatologist on Gender Dysphoria
September 13, 2022When I first started seeing my therapist I told her that I didn’t have any gender dysphoria. It didn’t take me very long to follow that up with, so by the way, what exactly is gender dysphoria? She explained it simply as a disconnect between one’s birth gender and one’s perceived or mental gender. I again repeated, yeah, no, I don’t have that and don’t think I have ever felt that way. I think a good question that I could…
Menstrual Products and My Misunderstood Childhood
December 11, 2021I used to think I was so weird, but I had absolutely no context whatsoever to explain absolutely anything that I was experiencing. One of the things that I could never really wrap my head around was my fascination with menstrual products. My sister is about two and a half years older than me and while growing up we shared a bathroom. She was always upset because I took so long in the restroom and she could never understand what…
Summer is Over, Now We Settle In
August 23, 2021Well summer is officially over. Well okay maybe not so much when the temps are still like 108 F. But for me it still is the season of summer is over as we have returned to the classroom. Which for me is an amazing and lovely thing for more than one reason. Yes I like working with my students. Yes I actually like my job. However it is way more that makes me thrilled at returning to work this year.…
My Trans Reality Isn’t Free of Growth
July 27, 2021When I tell people that at times I have a super difficult time with my dysphoria and being out in public they often scoff at me. They tell me that I pass perfectly well and that there is absolutely no reasons whatsoever that I should not feel totally and fully comfortable at all times in all settings with anybody. Wow, that is a tall order. To pass at all times in all settings anywhere? How about naked? Okay, well then…
Women have hourglass figures. Sounds pretty simple huh? Maybe, but that simple statement causes such harm that I feel the need to expand upon it. Harm you say? Yes harm. How about we attack it from my perspective first, that of a trans woman. The information floating around out there about transgender women and hips basically says that trans women will never acquire hips. Sorry but no, it’s not happening. Why? Well the no trans women will ever naturally get…