Do you know what gatekeeping is? Here is an acceptable definition: the activity of controlling, and usually limiting, general access to something. How exactly does that apply to trans folk? Normally it is interpreted as – you cannot do this thing, take hormones or have surgeries, until you have met the following predefined characteristics. Those characteristics are outlined within WPATH’s(World Professional Association for Transgender Health) SOC (standards of care.) The SOC have never been an issue for me until recently.…
So I did a Little Thing
October 19, 2018One of the easiest things in this process of legally changing my name and my gender was getting this driver’s license. You may recall that I was quite nervous about the process. In the end, it was super easy and I was in and out of the DMV in about 20 minutes. Yes I did have an appointment, and I highly recommend making one if you are ever in a need to visit that lovely place. The super surprising thing…
Dress – White House Black Market – Similar @ WHBM, @ Amazon Leggings – WHBM – @ WHBM, Similar @ Amazon Booties – Unisa – Havana @ DSW, Similar @ Amazon Scarf – WHBM – @ WHBM, Similar @ Amazon I had waited far too long. My court date to legally change my name and my gender was on June 28th. My plan, which was wonderful, was to get my birth certificate and then get my new license. Doing it in that…
Top – WHBM – Similar @ Amazon, @ WHBM Leggings – WHBM – Similar @ Amazon, @ WHBM Shoes – Unisa – Similar @ Amazon, @ DSW Belt – ?? – Similar @Amazon Do you know that I adore this tunic? Well I do! And today I felt like a queen. Does it show on my face? It should! Seriously, I really like this outfit. I had to go visit CVS after work to determine when my next refill of…
1 Regret, Some Could Have Done Betters, And Lots of Glad I Dids
September 13, 2018About 6 months ago. I will be the first to admit that my transition has not gone the way that I expected it to. My whole life has been spent picturing people chasing me down with torches and pitchforks. I know that would never happen, but as well I am the type that is afraid of a shark biting me when I jump in my pool. I know that it isn’t real, and I know it is not ever going…
There is nothing special about this outfit. In fact when I wore it I actually had some deodorant spots on it that I hadn’t even noticed before leaving the house. But I have been more than a bit busy lately, as you may have heard. I didn’t even really want to leave the house, but being as we were just about out of toilet paper, it was a necessity. I showered after my brief bit of yard work in the…
Recently I was questioned by a dear friend as to why it appears as though I have discontinued my blogging. My response – mental fortitude. Shall we take a moment and look at the definition of that phrase? mental and emotional strength in facing difficulty, adversity, danger, or temptation courageously: Never once did her fortitude waver during that long illness. So, um, yeah, that is what has been going on with me. I like the part of that definition that adds the word…